Women: It is not always our fault – from the way we talk to the products we use!

At a lecture, in my professional past, I heard a woman talking on the topic of how women and men differ in their communication patterns in the work setting.  One aspect of the speaker’s talk that really stuck in my mind was the idea that women apologize.  Yes that happens often, even if what happened isn’t our fault.  For example, let’s say someone says to you that they didn’t understand something that you were communicating or that they couldn’t make a meeting that you had scheduled with them that they had previously said they could attend.  First thing we say is sorry about that.  Heavens!!  Why should we say, SORRY, as if someone’s lack of ability to comprehend or inability to meet a commitment was our responsibility.  Instead of saying, SORRY, we should have just said, what part of what I said didn’t you get.  Or, let’s reschedule.  Think about it do you do that? It seems is if some women use sorry as a conciliatory statement so the other person isn’t alienated.   Note, please, that I said, some women, as not all women do that, of course.  Sorry if I offended anyone.  (Only kidding on that last sentence!) 

For those of you who have taken the time to read my other postings or have learned more about me, you know that I am a real RN, with a focus on women’s health, and am associated with Tampax and Always brands.   While I try really hard to stay noncommercial, every once in a while a topic comes up that makes sense to include information related to those products.  With the topic of fault, I learned something really interesting that prompted me to write about women needlessly taking blame, and that is:  Most women blame themselves if their products fail.   For example, in the realm of menstrual protection products, if women have leaking with their products and maybe soil their clothes or bed linens, they think they did something wrong.  Actually though, it may be that the product is not that good.  Of course, we should use the right product for the right time of month.   But that hardly constitutes a MY BAD or I am sorry type of mentality.  It just means that you should try something different, if the product didn’t meet your needs.  Not your fault, you just need to make an adjustment. 

When it comes to menstrual protection products, how do you do that and learn what product is best for you.  This is where I get a bit commercial, and that is because I believe in the Tampax and Always products, know them the best, so I talk about them.   I suggest you to go to Tampax.com or Always.com.  On the Tampax site, there is a section called ‘Which Tampax is Right For You’.  On the Always site, there is a section called ‘Always Protection’ which leads you to deciding what product is best for you.  The links to those sites are below.  Another benefit of visiting those sites, is that both have coupons and free product offerings.  For sure I won’t apologize for that!!

Let me know if you do the apology thing and what you think about that.   Also, good luck with choosing the best products for you. 

http://www.tampax.com/en-US/products/products.aspx?utm_source=blogger&utm_medium=NurseElaine&utm_content=link20110108&utm_campaign=comm_mgr

http://www.always.com/products/?utm_source=blogger&utm_medium=NurseElaine&utm_content=link20110108&utm_campaign=comm_mgr